Swingers - True confessions from today's swinging scene

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I had been worried that John didn’t love me anymore, and that it was the reason why he was going out and exploring his newfound sexuality with new people. But I soon understood that this wasn’t true.

Don’t blame yourself for what she did , it’s not your fault it’s all on her. That being said don’t go off on her telling her she’s a bad person and be all holier than thou. She already knows she did wrong even if she is trying to justify it. Then there are the fake swingers. These couples tend to be younger. They attend all the big events, and if there's a stripper pole in the room, you can bet they'll be the first ones on it. But when it comes down to the actual swinging, they're more into the exhibitionist aspect of the lifestyle and ultimately are not looking for sex with other couples. Get a pre-nup in place... Sit and talk and talk and talk then make a set of rules clearly stating what is and what is not acceptable to you both.... With the balcony door open, I watched the landscape cruise by while he used his mouth to bring me to orgasm. I switched positions on the couch, so he was behind me, making sure he got to take in the pleasurable view while experiencing his own pleasure. I thought he and I were friends but that I believe was a facade and obvious lie so he could easily have access to f**k my wife. I didn’t know about it for years because it happened while I was working. Of course. Little hoe she said was.Instead of staying at the bar, we decided to go a dance club that played all kinds of different music. My wife walked into the club with Ben on her arm, and I likewise with Jody. We got a booth, Karen and Ben go to the dance floor immediately, while I stayed and talked to Jody. I asked her all kinds of questions about her swinging, she said they didn't swing with that many couples, 1, or 2, and one of the couples had dropped out, so they were looking for a new couple to swing with. I would never recommend swinging to anyone, but neither would I tell them to stay away from it. Every relationship is unique, and it’s entirely up to the individuals involved to figure out what works best for them.

I still love her anyway but I wonder if she doesn’t cheat now because she thinks nobody would have her. Maybe that’s a good thing but I can tell she’s profoundly unhappy. After we had a few couples all those years ago, she started cheating. It was with a guy she had sex with when I had sex with his wife at the swingers club. Any attempt at this stage to try to save your relationship will fail. You cannot be nice to her or you will be seen as weak and she will lose the last bit of respect for you. You have to stop thinking with your feelings and go on autopilot with a plan. Be cold and direct with her and avoid being emotional as possible. Tell her it’s over and you are pursuing a divorce, period. It is now her job to save the marriage by convincing you not to do it by ACTIONS, not promises. I couldn't believe he told me about this guy. I broke down, 'Why are you doing this to me?' I asked.Until things calm down a little, do yourself a favor and distance yourself from your wife's actions. Focus on doing what's best for the kids right now and DO NOT talk to her about your relationship. She doesn't want to hear it anyway. Focus on eating and getting rest. Be as clear as possible. I don't think she has much bitterness towards me. Except that she blames me for being in a deep depression for the last half of last year. I let my body go a bit and only recently have been getting my act together. Thinking of it, it seems rather petty of her. I'm still very confused and I've still got a pulse in the high 90's and high blood pressure from this. Usually I have a low blood pressure and a pulse of 50. I know that I'm just not thinking straight right now. Rage. Anger. Embarrassment. etc... I'm on an emotional roller-coaster right now. I suspect that she isn't telling me everything about the incident, and I suspect it is with one guy who she has already denied and said it is someone else. I also suspect that it was more than once. I'm guessing twice based on evidence. I'm really mad about this. We had just had a vasectomy reversal done in the hopes of having more kids and I think this happened while I was on bed rest and couldn't go out with the group. We had sex soon after, her older sister gave her suggestions on how to go about it. He sister also gave her a condom to use, but we failed at getting in on right so she got a load full in her pussy. It was my first ejaculation having sex and it felt like I emptied my balls completely. From then on she carried condoms with her and she practiced with her sister getting them on a banana, after that she managed every time. We tried everything, every position her sister told her about. From cowgirl to she dog on her hands and knees. By the time we finished the sixth grade there was very little for us to learn or try.

Two days later my wife scheduled a three hour spa treatment for me at our resort. I had no idea what to expect. When I arrived I was taken to an open area in the mens section and asked to to remove my clothes. As they walked me to the massage area, I noticed that others had robes and I was the only one fully nude, which seemed odd. I also noticed some smiles/laughs that must have been due the very small penis I was not so proudly revealing. She set up another date with them in a couple of weeks, hopefully in the meantime, I can persuade her to give up the swinging. I did notice something that also disturbed me, when Karen got undressed for bed she wasn't wearing any **, when we left to meet them she was. I know people will be judging me about what happened, or tell me my wife does not love me, she does, and I love her. Like I wrote before, my wife gets impulsive, and I have had to talk her out of doing crazy things before, like buying expensive cars, and jewelry. I should have no problem doing it again. My wife is more attractive than me. This is usually the case with most couples. I will only admit that here as I’m a fraud of a person. When people see the real me, I become more Republican than I actually am. We hide and hide often. That is slang for being full of crap. I am one being why I likely hide and pretend I’m all that when people that pay attention would know outside of having a great butt, I’m nothing. I remember coming home one night at three in the morning and seeing he wasn’t home. He had already started going out for paid sex services, but he always came home after and never spent an entire night outside.This put me in a great mood as we returned to the ship, which must have turned on some kind of sex magnet. That’s when I understood. The reason John wanted to try things differently had nothing to do with our love or care for each other. I can’t stop thinking about my older cousin. I hope I see him at the family reunion. Every time we run into each other it’s like we were never apart even though we are both married with children. He always initiates and can’t keep his hands off me when we are alone. The last time we saw each other there were so many stollen moments. Starting out with him sitting between me and his wife Nicole at dinner. We settled into the familiar comfort of not having to hide anything; not having to pretend that we define our love with sexual fidelity. In having the opportunity to be ourselves, we were able to truly relax. And that’s what vacations are for, right?

I couldn't believe the same argument went for three years. One fine day I shouted at him and asked 'What is that he wanted from me in his life?' Hogwash on homeschooling being the cause of her cheating. I homeschooled, with no help, for several years, and I didn't go out and F people at the gym. There are healthy ways to combat change and loneliness, and then there are unhealthy ways (your wife). That doesn't mean she's lost to you, though. Be firm with the moral boundaries, and definitely go 180 to shake here out of this fog. Get into counseling, and maybe there will need to be some changes in schooling or home life, but for now, she can't see the gigantic cliff looming up ahead, nor can she see the path of destruction she has left in her wake.I went to a small private school from first through twelfth grade. We knew each other pretty well and had some kids that joined and some that left, but fortunately most of the class remained through all the grades. This woman used both of us because she’s a narcissistic opportunist and another hoe. She stayed with us for about a year sleeping with both of us before finding a would be sugar daddy of some sort. I’ve realized I can’t have anyone that didn’t already have my wife or she’d come after them later. It’s likely still going on despite my wife finally looking average and being beat up from life. Good. Here's what we've learned in the several years now that we've been "in the lifestyle" (that's the more subtle term swingers prefer): 7 It Can Take Years Of Negotiating