A Good Old-Fashioned Spanking

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I have found that appropriate disciplinary implements can be very useful tools, as they really do help me in my role as disciplinarian, to provide our daughter with creative and memorable chastisement. However it is important that the use of implements should be discussed in detail as part of the agreed arrangement between parents and their 18+ daughters.

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My Dad began dating a woman named Kate, and by the time of my summer visit in 1984 she and her kids were living with him. Kate was an attractive woman in her early 30s and had two daughters from a previous marriage – Denise, who was eight at the time, and six-year-old Kristie. I would get a few more spankings from Kate after she became my stepmother, but that first spanking from her holds a special place in my heart. Authentic hand spanking on my very cheeky pert bare bottom .A very angry headmistress (wife) can and does apply punishment often and soundly . Well on her 18th birthday all that changed. Suddenly Melanie found that there were a whole lot of house rules in place and the consequences for any breach of those rules would be very real indeed. Of course she didn’t become perfect overnight, but gradually, week by week, the new discipline code began to turn her behavior and attitude around and as her disciplinarian I began to feel this wonderful sense of positive empowerment. Every time I took Melanie over my lap I felt that at last I had a way of providing my daughter with the kind of positive guidance that she needed. I felt that I was giving Melanie exactly what she needed, at exactly the right time in her life and I could see that she was absolutely thriving on this old-fashioned form of discipline. Hi Kim. I too went to college, 30 years ago now. I could have stayed in a dorm but one of my mother's friends knew of a single older lady who lived in the area and took in students. She was married but had no children.

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I’m not sure why I was the only one in our family that my parents spanked. Mom and Dad themselves never got spanked as kids, so I guess they had no idea how much it physically hurt. However much it hurt my behind, though, it did no lasting damage and every single spanking I received was justified. If you grew up in a house of screamers, chances are you turn up the volume on your kids too. And that describes most of us: About 9 out of 10 parents reported yelling, shouting, or screaming at their kids in a study by the Family Research Lab at the University of New Hampshire. I don’t know why, but Stevie never got spanked by our parents. Mom would not even let me give Stevie a play spanking. Once I playfully swatted him two or three times in front of her and I was told: “ No – don’t you ever do that to him again!” Instead, your tone should convey that you're firm, in control, respectful, and resolute. State your expectations in a matter-of-fact way with your regular speaking voice. Today I wore a blouse that is a little low cut, I am ** and it showed some cleavage. I knew he wouldn’t like it unless he was with me, I could wear anything even tiny bikinis if he is with me, but I was out alone and he said You wore that? It shows all your **. Then he said come here, and I went to him knowing what he was going to do and he said turn around and I did and he spanked me hard, just one seat but it stung. Then he said You’re too ** and you’re ** are too big to go out like that without me, don’t do it again. I mouthed off and asked What if I do? He got angry and said then you will be in big trouble.

A woodshed whuppin’ can now be up to around 80+ swats/lashes for me. To many, that probably sounds too severe, and to some it might sound like not enough. But I really think that just depends on the the person who is getting spanked and their limits. I DO have a decent ability to take a harsh spanking and she knows my limits very well. She spanks to the point of being effective without stopping too soon. Again, that amount will vary by couple, by implement, and by experience. From a spankee’s perspective…if you’re consenting to a punishment spanking to improve behavior and/or attitude, it SHOULD be something that will be effective and last for a good month or two. I know it does for me. Anita Bensoussane wrote:Are teachers allowed to use corporal punishment at your school, Ming? Pupils were caned when I was at school (though I avoided it, partly through behaving myself and partly through not getting caught if I didn't! ). However, caning was used sparingly and was abolished in Britain in 1987. So six months down the line we had an 18 year old daughter who had learned the importance of being respectful and considerate, honest and dutiful, diligent in her school work and in her household chores. This is not to say that since then Melanie has always lived up to the high standards that we have set for her. She certainly has fallen short on many occasions. But the most important thing is that she learned through discipline that these standards are important – a higher level to which she should constantly aspire. A growing frustration is not being heard because our families are affixed to a screen of some sort," says Renner. "Parents are more inclined to yell if they're trying to talk to a distracted, screen-gazing kid."I am 40 years old and have been married to my husband for 18 years, we dated 2 years before that. When we first met he was very jealous and demanding but very sweet and good to me. I remember I was driving soon after we met and I made a wrong turn and he pinched me. I got mad at him and he just laughed it off. That’s where I should have stopped it, but I kind of liked it. her last spanking, which occured when she was 18 years old. (contributed by jan) - In her biography debby I wanted a spanking and I got one before we even got home! It was in the car, pretty soundly then he made me ** him. I felt very submissive. AAP. 2018. Effective Discipline to Raise Healthy Childrenr. Pediatrics. December 2018, 142 (6) e20183112; DOI: https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2018-3112 https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/142/6/e20183112 Opens a new window. [Accessed June 2020]

Toss it. Upping the volume isn't the way to get what you want. Worse yet, the more frequent the yelling, the more often it has to be used to do the job. Your kid builds up a tolerance for yelling, so your pitch has to get louder, the frequency longer – and soon everyone is yelling just to be heard. – Michele Borba Just the other day I said a curse word, I said the S word when talking on the phone with a friend. He heard it and sternly said Watch your language. I said sorry and when I hung up he said Come here. I stood in front of him and he reached behind me and swatted by ** with his hand hard and said I don’t like you using that language. I said I was sorry and he said turn around I’m going to spank you. I turned around and bent over slightly and he spanked me ** the **. I said sorry again and he hugged me and gave me a kiss and then we made love. He can be gentle or rough in bed and he was very rough that night. I can’t just list the positives here. Sometimes we spank our kids because we are angry at them. We might be angry because they continue to push the boundaries and we haven’t disciplined them yet, so we just get hotter and hotter until we explode. Other times we are angry because we have been inconvenienced or embarrassed by them. Unfortunately, this happens far too often and is one of the reasons corporal punishment has such a bad reputation. Spanking is not a tool to relieve our frustration. What are the Benefits? My husband got really upset with me after almost ten years of marriage. I had been being b***hy for a long time and just kind of obstinate and not nice. Again this went on and off for a couple of years. He finally swatted my ** and took me upstairs telling me he was spanking me. I have no idea why but I went quietly. I went over his lap and was spanked on my bare bottom very soundly!

I was home alone with him and we were again by the pool. Stevie absolutely refused to listen to anything I said. Hello everyone I’m another husband who’s wife is a firm believer in spanking a naughty boy on a school theme as she insists I wear a school uniform shorts included she loves being the firm ,strict headmistress and has a mortar board and gown her motto reads “well my boy if you act like a spoilt graft you will be spanked like one.