I'm Ok, You're Ok

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I’m OK – You’re OK may make it up there right next to the Holy Bible or maybe even The Better Homes and Gardens Cookbook” Life Magazine. Interesting Review of I’m OK – You’re OK As a book that helped me better understand the world, myself and actively helped shed some parental baggage and improve, well… I aam a bit of cheerleader. The final chapter of I'm OK, You're OK refers to social issues contemporary at the time of writing, including the Cold War, Vietnam war and the contemporary controversial research of individuals' response to authority conducted by psychologist Stanley Milgram. Harris applies TA to these issues and concludes his book with the hope that nations will soon gain the maturity to engage in Adult to Adult dialogue, rather than conducting diplomacy in the collective archaic ego states of Parent or Child, which he sees as causing war and disharmony. I’m OK – You’re OK” also presents plenty of exaggerations. It ends up sounding a lot like cheerleading for the method instead of presenting facts and ideas.

Some parents unknowingly undermine treatment efforts because they really do not want to give up the Parent-Child relationship(..). Their position of power is threatened when the adolescent starts operating in the Adult; unless the parents are equally Adult, the transactions will cross. Central to most religious practices is a Child acceptance of authoritarian dogma as an act of faith, with limited, if not absent, involvement of the Adult. In the popular television show ALF, season four, episode five ALF takes on the topic of TA with direct reference to OKness, and even says to Willie, "I'm OK, You're OK".Being assertive at work can be really hard, and this is something many people struggle with. Our insecurities, perceived weaknesses, motivations and goals can all stop us from being assertive when we need to be. In this article, Charlotte Scott explains why we need assertiveness, what it actually is, and how to be assertive. Why we need assertiveness

Sometimes we become passive because we don’t want to be seen as pushy, or because we don’t believe our voice is valued, for example when speaking with a more senior person. When we act passively, we might understate how we’re feeling, use humour to deflect the situation, or steer the conversation to something safer.

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Withdrawal, rituals, activities, and pastimes, keep people apart and stand in the way of an emotional connection (also read: turning towards based on Gottman’s research). Games make the relationship combative. Intimacy Is Only Possible With “I’m OK” This is the state that is not ruled by emotion; it is rational and logical, working with the facts. This is the best state in which to plan, consider, decide and act. It is also the only state in which we can learn something new about ourselves. (That is why no-one ever changes their mind during an argument.) We have to be in an adult state to listen effectively to another person’s point of view; to consider new facts; to evaluate our behaviour. Lisa has 30 years’ experience of working in education, counselling and training. She is a practising therapist, supervisor and counselling trainer.

He also further discusses the games that “sinners” play in relation to religion, all of which are extremely interesting. PAC & Power RelationsWhen I consider myself OK and also frame others as OK, then there is no position for me or you to be inferior or superior.This is, in many ways, the ideal position. Here, the person is comfortable with other people and with themself. They are confident, happy and get on with other people even when there are points of disagreement. The confession of the Child to a religious priest says “I’m sorry, I’m not OK, please forgive me, I’m awful”.