Women On Top

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Even on college campuses, the surveys show that a partner's career potential far outweighs sexual compatibility. We should value our erotic reveries no less seriously, because they are the complex expressions of what we consciously desire and unconsciously fear. I thought it was gonna be like pop psychology but it’s just almost all these simultaneously lurid and tedious descriptions of women’s incredibly depraved sexual fantasies in the 80s. Four years later it would be the identical story with My Mother/My Self, the book that grew immediately out of My Secret Garden's questioning of the source of women's terrible guilt about sex. I doubt that men dream of Madonna when they masturbate unless it is to control her, overpower her, pin her down and show her "what a real man is.

Fast forward twenty years I thought I’d read it again, all the women that have written in are young and it all feels young and not enough depth anymore, maybe it’s because it’s not the first time I’ve read it but I’ve not enjoyed ot this time! However, despite the strange fantasies, there were some pretty hot ones too, and it's great to know that your doing something right, in owning, and enjoying your own body, and there is absolutely nothing wrong in doing so. Ten years ago when Men in Love, my book on men's sexual fantasies, was published, one of their favorite fantasies was the image of a woman bringing herself to orgasm.In contrast to these dire predictions comes a new and even younger generation whose fantasies till this book. Suffice it too say this book has certainly opened my eyes and made my own fantasies seem quite tame in comparison. Before I could comment, he rushed to explain that he'd come across the book in a summer house he and his wife had rented on Martha's Vineyard. Nearly two hundred women contributed, in their own uncensored words and through interviews with the author, the shocking, daring, amusing, untamed, and pulse-pounding imaginings that turn them on the most.

I bought this again for the nostalgia and man it still hits point, so refreshing to hear stories from old and young of women opening up and detailing their sexual feelings. I bought this as a hen night present and some of the women's fantasies are very explicit, great fun and possibly great for a newly married couple! The men in these fantasies were faceless strangers invented to further insure the women against involvement, responsibility, the possibility of a relationship. If you've never wondered just how twisted the minds of women really are 'Women On Top' will have you do so with the turning of each page. Women's groups once rallied against books by Nabokov and Henry Miller, works that are tame in comparison to these lolitas.We are now hearing some of the alienation traditional women felt during the years when the media and world attention were focused on women in the workplace. These were men raised in the 1950s and 1960s, men who longed -- at least in the safety of fantasy -- for women less sexually bludgeoned than Doris Day.

Keep yourself aware of this unconscious siren song wooing you back into being mama's good little girl, and just maybe you will pass on to your children a less muddled message. You know, despite the title, I went in here, not really knowing what to expect, and what I was expecting, ended up being so much more than that.Nancy Friday is the bestselling author of My Secret Garden, Jealousy, Men in Love, My Mother/My Self, Women on Top, The Power of Beauty and, most recently, Our Looks, Our Lives. Women lived in the Good Girl/Bad Girl split until economic forces in the 1960s built to a pitch that exploded into the women's movement and the sexual revolution.

But women today at least know they are entitled to anger, and fantasy is a safe playground where they can show rage at all the obstacles that stand in their way, beginning with rage at the enormous difficulty in being sexual plus all the other things a woman today must be. At 49 now my life has been great, but relationship wise a mix of women happy to open up the sexual box or push the envelope or those keeping their sexual feelings closed off, I always felt like flinging them a copy of this book and saying "its ok to feel horny and hot " . The stories I am drawn to now are not necessarily the most interesting sexually speaking; rather they are the ones where the first-person narrator's voice stands out from the rest of the women in this book. Femininity is a powerful force and indeed, there probably is much truth in the author's claim that women are "the more powerful sex".As late as June 1973, the same month My Secret Garden was published, permissive Cosmopolitan magazine printed a cover story by the eminent and equally permissive Dr. If man did not fear women's sexuality so much, why would he have smothered it, damning himself to a life with a sexually inert, boring wife, forcing him to go to prostitutes for sex? Why do we rush to deny those years, treating them as aberration, a wild, prolonged house party where we drank too much, or surely we wouldn't have stayed so long, done what we did? She is long gone, although years later we wrote a brief but amazing new chapter together, however those times aand the text stayed with me. Nancy Friday, best-selling author of feminist and erotic literature, psychoanalyst and socio-sexual historian, has been the leading witer on women's and men's sexual fantasies since the publication of her first best-selling erotic book, My Secret Garden.