When you’re working full time, the desire to submit can be impeded by a good number of obstacles. As a submissive who balances their full-time employment with their submissive role, one of their most concerns will always be finding a way to please their dominant while maintaining a strong professional image outside of the home. Regardless, it was difficult to find any information about balancing a professional life with the submissive desires, so this article is dedicated to the people who, wish to explore the D/s relationship dynamic and continue to work in the business world. We will agree on an estimated time you will spend in chastity. If you’re new to this one or two weeks might be a good start. If you’re experienced we set the preferred limit higher.

In my opinion though, there is far too much emphasis of the Women having to do everything to ensure the dynamic functions. For example the Women should; organise, create, manage, ensure, lists, structure, rules, oversee etc. etc. The sub gets points for behaving good and loose points for failing to live up to standards or for being too comfortable. The more points, the easier the life of the sub is. Learning goals and rewards begin with your selecting what he is to learn. He will ask for a reward of his choosing (you can limit his choices by using a list). You will teach him and watch his progress. When he learns the task, he has met his goal and is to be commended. When he shows prolonged retention of that learning he gets the reward. Training your man by coaching Touching Restrictions- The submissive is not allowed to touch or be touched by the Dominant. If the submissive shows their affection through touch, this can be especially difficult. If I expected my Wife to create spreadsheets and list, to manage me like a small child, this would be exhausting for Her. She is busy enough with being a successful business owner and being the bread winner. The last thing I want to do is put more pressure on Her and for Her to spend Her precious time managing me. I am not a child, but I am expected to become a better husband to her and grow emotionally.

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BDSM contracts are a pretty important part of the relationship. Both parties need to bring something to the relationship to make their counterpart the best version of themselves. The contract outlines what the Dominant/submissive will be responsible for. They are meant to protect both people from hurt feelings and unrealistic expectations. They can include anything you want, really. And they can and should include any rules and consequences for rule breaking. These can be verbal or written out, but the most important part of the contract is communication. This is something that is ongoing throughout the duration of the relationship. Discipline Condition 1. If I am unable to do the task due to location, I may request to postpone the task until I am in a location where performing the task is appropriate. When giving rules in a new dynamic, I recommend giving a few at a time. Build up the rules list slowly, instead of enforcing a whole list of unfamiliar rules all at once. Enforcing many rules at once can set the submissive up for failure and establish a feeling of discouragement from the start. What are the purpose of rules? Skill-based: These are rules or tasks that may include learning a new skill, improving a known skill, or practicing a skill. Examples: Research a kink you are interested in, Work on a new rope tie that you’ve never tried before, or With a toy, practice throat training.

If you roll 9, then every 9 day, BUT if you dont do it or fail at that task you will get + 1d9 days to your weeks ;3 In the world of orgasm control, where, when and whether you want your sub to orgasm or not is completely up to you. It’s great fun to try over long distance, or just to see how far you can push your sub. Remember that part of the fun is maybe being spotted with your device, and that you will not get the same rush and experience if you cheat. Every day, when I wake up I would like an message telling me what you are going to wear that day and the name placement. Undergarments are to be included. Clothes- Find something that you like her to wear and surprise her with it when she is following a rule. You could start with lingerie and tell her that she will get the complete outfit as she continues to comply with the rules.

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Even the simplest of tasks can become surprisingly challenging when a sissy has to do it over and over again, especially when a single mistake might mean all the difference between pleasure and punishment. You wouldn't think that a man could confuse a pair of panties with a bra or a garter belt, but ask him enough times, and he's sure to slip up sooner or later! That's before you demand he notices the details of such womanly garments, let alone commit their feminine features to memory, all the while distracted by suggestions of how weak women's underwear makes him. How long will he be able to focus? A rule is something that is negotiated and given to a submissive. Rules, once in place, are recurring. They should be followed, and are expected to be done, usually without prompts.

No worries. Tasks are completely optional. You may choose to not get any tasks at all. You may even just temporarily disable all tasks by answering "no" to every question in the questionnaire, until you are ready again. (It will be a lot more boring, though. Keep that in mind.) The Dominant wants respect and devotion. The submissive must trust the boundaries and rules that are put into place. As a submissive, I rely on my Dom to guide me, lead me, and in return he gets my devotion. Punishments

Of course, you won't be doing all the tasks. You let us know what you like, what you don't like, what toys you have, and we'll select your tasks based on this. Remember, you can also write an introduction about yourself ( more about introductions here), so if you're with a human keyholder, they can more clearly see what you would like to get out of your chastity sessions. Part of the draw of the lifestyle as a submissive is to relinquish control to someone else so that they can help you be the best version of yourself. It’s not all about pleasure, well, that’s relative. There is pleasure in having someone take charge of parts of your life. There is pleasure in exploring how far you can push yourself. That’s why submissives need Dominants. It’s about learning your limits and having boundaries. The Dominant that you gift with your submission will guide you and enforce the boundaries when you forget. How they enforce is between you both and is something that should be discussed frequently. If the man is expecting Her to do all of this then it is really missing the point. In FLRs, the power dynamic shifts so that the Women is in charge. However, this doesn’t mean that She has to now take complete responsibility for him and micro-manage his behaviours. Instead, he should be expected to manage his own behaviours in a way that always puts Her thoughts and feelings first. Her needs and desires are the priority for him.