Instead of waiting, we can say no to anymore of their shenanigans and choose love, care, trust and respect for ourselves in the process. People had come to expect my compliance and it took time for them to get used to the hard-nosed version of me.

This has left me constantly over-committed due to saying ‘yes’ to too many nights out because of FOMO (fear of missing out); yes to all work in case, being a freelancer, I don’t get any more; and yes to anyone who wants a favour, because I simply hate to offend.Deze hele simpele en heldere cover spreekt me erg aan en vind ik perfect afgestemd op het onderwerp van het boek. Someone who says no has a sense of their boundaries, so they have a sense of their responsibilities and where they end and others begin.

Wie früher in der Schule als die Lehrer die Fehler mit einem durchgingen und immer wieder die Nase reingedrückt hat. Look them in the eye, avoid being smiley, and state your ‘no’ in a clear and unwavering way, then break off eye contact to make it clear the conversation’s over. Natalie lives in Caterham, Surrey, on the edge of south London with her husband, two daughters, and cockerpoo. Wat ook sterk is aan haar verhaal is dat ze ook de kant belicht dat dingen niet ineens lukken en je ongetwijfeld meerdere malen de fout in zal gaan. Don’t forget that my book, The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Please, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want, comes out this month.Then one day when Lue was 28 and meeting with a medical consultant about her lack of progress and dismal treatment options, she suddenly heard the word no — and it had come from her own lips. Rather than being endlessly obliging or giving into whatever it is ‘in case’, you’re making choices based on your convenience and inclination. It was great to collaborate towards a joint end and to feel genuinely that I was adding value to lots of projects. Not only that, but I came to realize I have a tendency toward codependency in friendships and relationships.

foster more intimate relationships and fulfilling experiences, and reconnect with your values and authentic self. Follow author Natalie Lue’s six-step plan to find your no so you can create healthier boundaries and reconnect with your values and authentic self. For the first few years, even with the inevitable bumps and challenges along the way, I was riding high. Reader uninitiated about narcissism might continue their often false hope the relationship can be salvaged because of strategies that assume people are at least ready and able to hear what you say.Dale Henderson recommends finding the line between being completely passive, and being aggressive and territorial – the former could lead to you being the office doormat, and the latter to you being perceived as unhelpful.

But there were several years in the middle of this 17-year journey — that road of trials I mentioned— that put me through my paces and put everything I’d learned in those first few years to the test. Still, there's plenty here to like and get something out of, and it has certainly made me rethink my approach, and that's all you can ask out of any book, especially one that's not particularly long. This is THE book for me— found myself nodding often… and wishing I had a physical copy to be annotating.Deze vijf verschillende types diept ze, hierbij gaat ze ook op zoek naar de achterliggende reden van dit gedrag. It’s so common because the systems on which our world has operated — patriarchy, capitalism, and in fact, all the isms — are really all about how different is wrong and the importance of toeing the line so as not to be rejected. In his new book Great at Work: How Top Performers Work Less and Achieve More, based on a survey of 5,000 employees and managers in which work practices were charted against results, author Morten T. Ebooks fulfilled through Glose cannot be printed, downloaded as PDF, or read in other digital readers (like Kindle or Nook). The Joy of Saying No is a guidebook for recovering people-pleasers and a love letter to the power of boundaries.